In Defense of Baked Goods

I had not given Hostess Bakery much thought in many years, until the announcement of their recent demise. Even then, however, my thoughts did not turn to sugary goodness, but to the realization that, without Hostess, there will be an entire generation of college kids to whom the following pop culture reference makes no sense — my favorite band name of all time:  “Breakfast Bake Shop”.

I only knew one of its members in a tangential sort of way, but my understanding is that the name was appropriate on all levels.  If you keyed in on the ‘bake’ portion of that name, you’d be right.  They were not referring to Hostess fruit pies.

Keep in mind that this was the early 90’s in Seattle, when you were in the minority if you were not in a band.  These were the days of house parties, when word of the party was spread the old fashioned way (flyers! telephone poles!).  You bought a keg cup for $3 (sometimes free if you were a girl), and if things worked out well for the hosts, the party covered the costs of the kegs and provided seed money for the next one.

I was friends with some guys living in such a party house — actually, two different houses over the years, with a rotating cast of roommates.  Parties at Amityville and The White House were a regular weekend occurrence.  Often, bands would play at these parties….. haphazard bands with names like Celibate Twist and Breakfast Bake Shop.  I’m fairly certain that most of these bands never played a gig anywhere other than their buddies’ houses, but that was OK.

My memories of those parties, I’m sure, have morphed over the years.  They have taken on a mythical quality, and I am keenly aware that they are best viewed in the rosy glow of hindsight. My memories exist in snippets, in hazy vignettes. A beer-soaked floor that your feet stuck to.  Steam rising from sweaty bodies in a crowded, dark room.  A muddy basement, the floor above us bouncing in synch with pounding music and feet.  Watching my friend, a Cure fan, joining a band on stage and singing “Just Like Heaven”. On a different night, watching a band side-stage, leaning against the amps with my friend, who was dreamily eyeing the striped shirt-clad drummer.  She was into drummers.  I’ve always been more of a guitar girl.

I couldn’t tell you what kind of music Breakfast Bake Shop played, or whether they had any original songs.  I just remember dubbing their name as my favorite, which was no small feat.  Bands were everywhere, each striving to have a name more clever than the next.   Reading the “What’s Happening” column in The University of Washington Daily was a must, not because we intended to go and see those bands, but in order to see their names.  I have it on good authority that writers at The Daily would often make up names of bands that didn’t actually exist.

Once, as a full grown adult in a fit of nostalgia, I ate a Hostess Twinkie. It was awful. The creamy filling was nothing like I had remembered it. Just like those parties, I suppose it should have stayed in the past as a tasty memory.

Even now, in the post-Hostess era, my husband I still declare it when we think something would be a good band name.  But I always forget to write them down, so if I ever started a band, I don’t have a list to work from. And besides, I don’t think I could do any better than Breakfast Bake Shop. 

Talking to Tweens about Sweat

Keith Sweat, that is.
His mellow grooves just happened to come on the radio recently, as I was picking up my son from the movies. It was one of Keith’s slower numbers — so you have to turn the radio up and sing along, right?  My son hopped in the car and started to talk to me.  I pretended to listen at first.  But then I couldn’t hear Keith.

“Sorry, I can’t pay attention to what you are saying right now.  Wait until the slow jam is over”.

Reading the name on the radio display, my son said:  “Keith SWEAT? What kind of a name is that? That can’t be his real name.  And what’s a slow jam?”  [So yeah, try and explain a slow jam to your almost-13 year old:  “well, son… it’s music you would listen to if you were having someone over to…study”.].  I elected to interpret his question as theoretical, and did not respond.    
The next day, I’ll be darned if Keith Sweat didn’t come on the radio AGAIN.  (what is the universe trying to tell me?)  This time, my son’s friend was in the car.   My son joyfully pointed out the name scrolling across the radio – “hey, check it out.  Keith SWEAT.  My mom likes him”.  I started to explain that it’s not that I really like him, it’s that it makes me nostalgic…..but then I gave up.  The kids were mocking me by then, anyway.

If I had felt like being really mocked, I would have told them how I went and saw Keith Sweat in concert a few years ago, with a friend who I hadn’t known in my earlier hip-hop/R&B days. We met each other when our kids were in preschool, and somehow discovered that we shared an affinity for Keith Sweat back in the day. So when we learned that Keith was going to be in concert at the Emerald Queen Casino, it was an obvious choice for an adventure.

I think in some ways we both were not sure it would really happen, but we did it — we made it out of our houses on a rainy Friday night, which is a feat unto itself.  Not only that; we made it all the way to Tacoma!   We arrived at the casino/venue, ate a dinner of fried food and drank bad wine while we took in the scene.  The crowd was 90% ladies, which was not a surprise.  However, we also learned during the course of the evening, that, in addition to still being a master of the slow jam, Keith was also the purveyor of a book on relationships, and has a dating website.  And, if we had happened to momentarily forget about the book or website, fortunately there were several reminders throughout the show.  So that was a relief.

For the lucky ladies near the front of the venue, there were abundant opportunities to join Keith on stage for the purpose of serenading and/or public adoration.  One concertgoer seized her moment, grabbing the mic and letting us all know how she felt about Keith, yelling,  “I’LL SUCK YOUR BALLS OFF!!”   

Keith was not happy about this, instantly grabbing the mic from her.  In all fairness, however, he had advised us all earlier:  “If you want it, get up ON it”. So really, in her defense, she was just taking the initiative.  And for that, I applaud her.  

In the end, Keith must not have been too offended by the Pacific Northwest concert crowd.  My friend emailed me recently with news of another upcoming show at the casino:  “He’s baaaaaack……”